Feeling sick – IWD Week 2021

Last year I took this photo at the start of the week of IWD. Despite the blatant misogyny under which we were – and still lived at that time, I felt more energy, I had more hope that things would change. That hope has been fading, and I swear my invisible scars have become moreContinue reading “Feeling sick – IWD Week 2021”

No wrong way…

As with all my work – I cannot claim to speak for everyone… this is what I have seen, felt and learned through my life and experiences. I believe that survivors of trauma, assault and abuse are often told or led to believe that there is a “correct” way in which we must present andContinue reading “No wrong way…”

Not in My Cave You Don’t

My son asked me the other day how grown ups know, when they are having ‘grown up time’ that it feels good. He wanted to know specifically which part of the brain told the heart that ‘this is the one.’ Not a question I had been planning to answer as we ran down the streetContinue reading “Not in My Cave You Don’t”

Boys will be….come dangerous men

If we think boys are less mature and capable than females – why do we not change the legal age for driving and voting by gender? If we truly want to hide behind the excuses of ‘boys will be boys’ and ‘girls are more mature’ – well then boys shouldn’t vote until they are 25 or have a learners driver permit until they are 20.

Your Soul

When good friends are torn apart by the deliberate, pre-meditated and hurtful actions of another – it is a tragedy. It is not fair and it hurts. It is like seeing a pod of majestic whales suffering and drying after becoming stranded on the shore. A loss felt by many, which cannot be mended. WhenContinue reading “Your Soul”

Scar Tissue from Gas Burns

Scar tissue of the heart is an interesting thing. I was reminded of this today once I calmed down from an argument with one of my oldest friends. I don’t claim to be a psychology expert by any means, but I know me and my story. I know some of the things that trigger me,Continue reading “Scar Tissue from Gas Burns”

I just gotta say this

I just spend about 30 minutes writing up a post which I can not publish. It is relating to my son finding audio recordings of me singing in German, and us both in a rural village in Kenya … during the post and explaining all of this my son goes from laughing to sad toContinue reading “I just gotta say this”