As with all my work – I cannot claim to speak for everyone… this is what I have seen, felt and learned through my life and experiences. I believe that survivors of trauma, assault and abuse are often told or led to believe that there is a “correct” way in which we must present and deal with our trauma. We are expected to recover in a set way, told that the process “should” be linear. It isn’t. Pain isn’t. Grief isn’t. It’s ugly, weird, interesting, boring, suffocating, releasing, it feels freeing and like a cage. Healing can lead to dangerous liaisons and beautiful connections.
I believe there isn’t a right or wrong answer. Take care of yourself and don’t hurt anyone. It is no ones fault they have been hurt – it is their responsibility however not to hurt by one else.
Love you all.